The Mindset Fundamentals for Relocation Success
Relocating to a new country can be an exciting adventure, full of opportunities for personal growth and enrichment if you are ready for it. However, it also comes with its fair share of challenges.
As someone who has personally relocated to different countries several times and based on observations from my friends, acquaintances, and clients who made such a bold move, I have witnessed the trials and triumphs, and I’ve come to recognize a familiar pattern. Most individuals tend to repeat the same mistakes when moving.
The core reason behind unsuccessful relocations often stems from an improper mindset, precisely, being inadequately prepared in terms of mental readiness for the move.
Relocation is an incredible journey that requires not just logistical planning but also a solid mindset. Let’s explore the fundamental mindset principles that are essential for a successful and fulfilling relocation experience:
1. Know Your “Why” for Relocation
- Clarify Your Motivations:
Are you seeking a fresh start, a change of scenery, a better job, an exciting adventure or a comfortable climate? Or maybe a better cost and quality of living?
Understanding your motivations helps you set realistic expectations for the future.
- Honesty is Key:
Facing the reality of why you’re leaving your current home is essential. Acknowledge both the positive and negative aspects of your current situation to ensure that your decision to relocate is well-founded.
Relocating for the sake of escaping problems back home often leads to carrying emotional baggage across borders. Be honest about your reasons and address lingering issues before you move, to ensure a fresh start and authentic growth.
- Manage Expectations:
My young neighbor Mark decided that he needed to move to Mexico, as he considered it an idyllic paradise. Не imagined days filled with leisurely strolls on pristine beaches, colorful sunsets, and carefree living, as it was during his short vacation the year before. However, upon arriving, he quickly realized that the reality was a bit more complex. He completely overlooked such basic things of our daily life as locating grocery stores in the new living area, booking service to repair the apartment’s air conditioner, managing bill payments (with the payments in the bank brunch), and identifying a reliable internet provider in a country, where companies services and rules are different, in addition, that his Spanish was pretty basic.
These seemingly straightforward tasks that we take for granted in our home country transform into genuine challenges demanding increased energy when moving to a new one. Acknowledging that life’s difficulties don’t vanish overnight enabled Mark to tackle challenges with a more grounded outlook.
So, recognize that moving won’t magically erase all challenges. While new surroundings offer a fresh perspective, some struggles might persist. Being prepared and realistic can prevent disappointments and foster a more adaptive mindset.
2. Don`t Be Afraid to Fail
- Plan Alternatives and Stay Flexible:
As you prepare for your move, consider having multiple backup plans in case things don’t go the way you expect. Having a Plan B can ease your worries and make you more resilient in the face of unexpected challenges.
- Time for Adjustment:
My personal experience taught me that adjusting to a new culture takes sometimes even years. I overcame initial culture shock by reminding myself that it all takes time and adjustment doesn’t happen overnight.
Don’t rush yourself into feeling completely at home right away. Allow yourself to gradually get used to the new environment, learn the ins and outs, and find your own rhythm. Remember, adaptation and growth happen step by step.
- Appreciate Cultural Differences:
Instead of constantly comparing your new country to your home country, seek to understand, accept and appreciate the differences, the culture, and customs of your chosen destination. Take time to learn about the local values and way of life. This will not only help you feel more integrated but also allow you to understand and appreciate the uniqueness of your new environment.
3. Overcoming Homesickness
- Expect Moments of Feeling Alone:
Moving to a new place can sometimes trigger homesickness. It’s completely normal to feel lonely when you’re in a new environment. Especially during the first 6 months. Remember, it’s not a reflection of your ability to adapt. It’s just a phase that many people go through when adjusting to change.
- Do Something:
Distract yourself from homesickness by engaging in activities you enjoy. Whether it’s exploring your new neighborhood, pursuing hobbies, or trying out local events, staying busy can help take your mind off the longing for home. A regular schedule that includes exercise, work, leisure, and social time with new people around can also help you settle into your new environment. What helped several of my clients is to make a list of things they want to do on their own so they can go back to it on a “rainy” weekend.
- Build Relationships:
Keep in touch with friends and family from back home, and also make an effort to form new connections. But don’t join expat clubs right after you move, avoiding all possible contacts with locals.
Communication with expats only would be too much of a comfort zone and you may not make friends with the locals. Try to find friends around the locals, who will show you their country from their point of view and will help you to practice your language skills. Engage with local organizations, cultural events, participate in community gatherings, and initiate conversations with neighbors. These interactions can lead to friendships and a support network that eases homesickness.
4. Discover the Unfamiliar
- Language Learning:
Dedicate some time each day to learning the local language. Whether it’s through language classes, language apps, or conversational practice, acquiring even basic communication skills can make your life a lot easier.
- Dive Into The New Culture:
Take the time to discover the culture, history, and language of your new country. Attend local events, festivals, and gatherings. And of course, try new food. Food is a window into the culture. The more you invest in understanding and embracing your new environment, the more rewarding your journey will be.
- Stay Curious:
Approach your surroundings with curiosity and an open mind. Ask questions, seek out answers, and be willing to learn from your interactions.
And one more time: don’t compare your home country to your adopted homeland!
Don’t be the expat that’s always complaining or knows how to “make it better”. Besides, no country is perfect.
As you get ready for your move, keep in mind that having the right attitude is like having a trustworthy guide. It helps you navigate the ups and downs you’ll face along the way. Whether it’s staying realistic about what’s coming, facing difficulties with a positive approach, staying curious, or appreciating different cultures, having a strong and positive mindset is like the foundation of a great life in a new place. It’s what makes your relocation journey exciting, fulfilling, and full of positive changes.
If you’re seeking assistance in selecting the ideal country for your relocation, strategizing your move, navigating the transition, or preparing your mind to the move, I’m available to provide support. Book a personal consultation to begin your relocation journey with assurance and clear direction!
